2018 Resolutions: Achievable Ways to Make the Everyday Brighter
Ah yes, it's that time of year again. Usually I am a stickler for resolutions, and often end up with a list of goals that just won't be ticked off within 12 months. Learning a language, writing a book, going to classes, travelling, learning a new skill or five... it's exhausting just thinking about it. So for 2018, I've been thinking more along the lines of small changes that I can make, that will just give a little boost to the everyday and generally make life easier and more lovely all round. They're not all easy, but they're little things that could have a big impact - and I'm excited to get started...
stop thinking about what others think
This is my biggest personal goal for 2018. I am all too guilty of overthinking everything and worrying far too much about the what-ifs, and especially what other people will say/think/do in basically any given situation. The worst bit of this is when it's worrying about the opinions of people that I really shouldn't be concerned with, so in 2018 I am going to make a huge effort to disregard any negative thoughts or creeping worries about certain people or certain situations - it's draining and it's unhelpful. It's going to be hard work as it's an effort to break the habit of a lifetime, but I think I'd be a lot lighter in my mind if I wasn't weighed down with these kinds of worries.
take it easy when it counts
I've always been a high achiever, and while it's fantastic that I'm keen to push myself, and has afforded me many opportunities, it has its downsides too. I need to learn to be a bit nicer to myself when I need to; to lower expectations of myself and realise that it's ok to not be totally, completely amazing at every thing I do, or to always be at the beck and call of loved ones, even when it's at a detriment to myself. Sometimes the most important thing is to be able to say no and feel at ease with that.
push myself when i need to
At the other end of the spectrum, I think sometimes I need to give myself a sharp nudge to do the things that I find scary. It's all too easy to stay in a comfort zone when something scares you, but I need to give myself a bit of a shove along the way at times to make sure I don't get too comfy.
learn a few more recipes
I actually really enjoy cooking and while I'm no Nigella, I'm happy to give it a good go. But the repertoire can sometimes get a little repetitive, so this year I'd like to get a few more simple recipes under my belt, to brighten up evenings with something fun to make and delicious to eat. I'm thinking along the lines of shakshuka, some more fish dishes, and some Asian-inspired meals too.
GO TO A CLASS ONCE A WEEK
I'm thinking something calming and soothing, like a yoga class or Pilates. I never take this kind of time for myself, instead spending evenings on the sofa or out with friends - and as lovely as that is, it's not proper relaxation time. I think I have a very busy mind and I need to be able to switch it off every now and again, even if that's just once per week.
use a journal more often
My flat is littered with notebooks and journals, but I never end up using them as I should. As I've said, I have a very busy mind, and I think it would actually be really useful to jot down ideas and thoughts and things I need to remember, rather than trying to hold on to all of it in my head.
learn a new skill to be used in the home
Earlier this year, I did a floristry masterclass with the legendary Nikki Tibbles, and it taught me some great skills on flower arranging for a bouquet. I would absolutely love to hone this skill this year, and do another floristry class where I could really learn some finer details and get the skills to create arrangements of different sizes or for different occasions - especially now that we have a wedding on the horizon. I thought there was nothing nicer than being presented with a bouquet, but then I realised how lovely it was to actually create one, and I think this would be a gorgeous way to add a bit of extra sparkle to the every day.
What are your resolutions for 2018?