30 Before 30: The Update

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As you might remember, this time last year, I drafted a semi-realistic '30 before 30' list, giving myself four years to complete as much of it as possible. And now we're here again, a whole year later, so I thought it was a perfect opportunity to check in and see how things are coming along...

1. START A NEWSLETTER

I'll save you the bother - this hasn't happened. I just don't have the time to spare at the moment, and I think this one will be on the backburner for a while yet.

2. LEARN FLORISTRY - completed

I got a fabulous opportunity to learn about floristry and bouquet-making techniques late last year, when I was lucky enough to learn from the best in the business, Nikki Tibbles - you can read about the whole experience here. It made me much more confident in my abilities, and I'm even not ruling out doing some of my own wedding floristry too.

3. BECOME THE SORT OF PERSON WHO GOES TO YOGA

This is one of those things that's always on my to-do list but it hasn't happened yet. However, my best friend has just moved one street away from me and goes to yoga weekly, walking past my house to get there, so I'm hoping her influence will rub off on me soon.

4. GO TO BALLET CLASS

Another one that's going to have to wait a while I think!

5. BECOME ELOQUENT IN CONVERSATIONAL FRENCH - getting there

After a second trip to Paris last year, and many hours spent with Duolingo, I'm feeling confident in my fluency at the moment. There's still plenty of work to be done but it's definitely getting there!

6. FINISH MY BOOK - on the way, slowly

I do this in dribs and drabs, dipping in and out of writing as and when inspiration strikes. I was doing really well late in 2017, but since we started planning the wedding, I just haven't really had the headspace. I'm hoping to pick this back up in the next few months though.

7. LEARN TO DRIVE

There's still absolutely no need for this yet. 

8. GO TO NEW YORK

Not on the radar currently - honeymoon plans are taking priority at the moment so this may be one that happens closer to 30.

9. EAT-ALY

I'm pitching this for said honeymoon plans - we'll see...

10. GET A TATTOO

I've actually really gone off of this idea - the more I think about it, the more I just feel relieved that I have never gone through with it. So maybe this one needs to leave the list.

11. LEARN TO 'TREAT YO'SELF' (I.E. GO TO THE SPA MORE OFTEN)

Hahahahaha I wish. Disposable income to go to the spa is not *a thing* at the moment.

12. VISIT MORE UK CITIES - ESPECIALLY IN THE NORTH - done

I actually did really well with this - last year I visited Manchester, Liverpool and York, and absolutely loved all three. I can't wait to go back to Manchester especially, and I definitely wouldn't say no to another trip to Liverpool in future.

13. LIVE IN PARIS

Well, we went to Paris twice last year so does that count? No. Ok, we'll keep trying on that one. 

14. DO A US ROAD TRIP

Something for the future...

15. LEARN TO CODE (PROPERLY)

This is one that's slipped off my radar a little, but Lewis is actually going on a coding course so I'm hoping he can teach me a few more tricks of the trade!

16. LIVE MORE MINIMALLY - done

I think what I have learned about myself as a 26-year-old is that I am a sentimentalist and therefore throwing things away does not come easily to me. I did very, very well at clearing out before we moved out last August, and I think I've struck a balance between keeping sentimental things and getting rid of clutter. Plus, I'm on a self-imposed shopping ban at the moment and also cleared out my wardrobe to make money to pay for my wedding dress, so there's actually been some real progress in this area. I'm learning to shop from my own wardrobe and enjoy what I have, instead of constantly adding to the pile.

17. BUILD A PROPER GROOMING ROUTINE

As someone who is going for her first haircut in over a year today, I think it's safe to say that I'm not ready to tick this one off just yet.

18. LEARN CALLIGRAPHY - on the way

I hadn't made much progress on this at all, but after looking at the prices of wedding stationery, learning calligraphy is now not just a 'would like to learn' - it's a necessity! I'm excited to have a reason to learn such a lovely skill, fingers crossed I'll actually be good at it though...

19. GO TO DISNEYLAND!

Still on the list, sadly. One day Mickey, one day.

20. IMPROVE SKILL (AND CONFIDENCE) AT SWIMMING

Absolutely zero progress on this.

21. GET SOME STAMPS IN MY PASSPORT

And this. 

22. GET BACK INTO MUSIC

And this, if we're being honest.

23. WRITE A CHILDREN'S BOOK - kind of on the way

I haven't started on this as such, but I've met a few people in the past year who could help me make this happen, including an illustrator and even publishers! Now just to come up with the idea....

24. DISCOVER MORE OF SCOTLAND

Still in the pipeline, but not something I've had the opportunity to tick off yet.

25. LEARN HOW TO SAY NO - done

This is such a huge one for me, as standing up for myself really wasn't something I could do, and that was something I really didn't like about myself. However, there have been a few situations in the last year that have been more of a lesson than a blessing, and gave me the opportunities to speak up for myself and be heard. I have learned that it's super hard to do, takes a lot of guts and a sense of recklessness to just say what you need to say, but you feel so much better afterwards and - guess what? Things get fixed. Definitely one worth learning if it's something you're struggling with too. 

26. CLIMB SOMETHING BIG

Good grief no.

27. LEARN TO SKI

Not happening any time soon. 

28. MAKE AN INVESTMENT PURCHASE - kind of

Does my wedding dress count?!

29. COMMIT TO PLAYING AN INSTRUMENT

Sadly, this is still something I've not prioritised enough - but with more of a need to stay home in the next year, it's maybe something I can pick up over the winter months. 

30. GET BACK INTO SEWING (AND LEARN HOW TO KNIT)

This one is another thing that I haven't prioritised, but I have a few projects in mind for the wedding which will definitely require my sewing machine, so I'm optimistic that this one will be ticked off in 2019.

So that's how I've been getting on - 27, let's have you! See you again in 2019 for another update on how I've been getting on... wish me luck!